About love - THE DANISH GIRL

I wasn't sure about writing about this film or not. It's one of that film you should watch, because it gives you something that can't be expressed so easily: you sit on the chair and you think, during the scenes, in the time-breaking, when the film is finished. If someone asks for your opinion, you can answer, but there will always be a part you can't reach with words. The actors, in particular Eddie Redmayne and Alicia Vikander, are very talented and they manage to touch the public.

The trailer catches your attention immediately and also getting to know that this film is based on a true story makes you feel more curious.

As usual, I don't want to summarise the plot, but I prefer to highlight what I appreciate the most (you can read the plot here).

We are in front of a double drama: the one lived by Einar/Lili and the other one of his wife Gerda, the search of the real essence of our soul on one hand and on the other hand the evolution of love.
Both of them need strength to carry the weight of the situation, a strength which grows together with their awareness.

Einar has always tried to hide his feelings and this has caused him insecurity and shyness. But then he suddenly realises the truth and he fears his real disposition.

The important is not only to understand, but also know that what we are going to start will be a hard and painful path, but it is essential to express what we are. Of course we could live in a cage forever with our fake happiness, but in this case we should bear the regret for not having tried.

It's like you feel cold, so you should get closer to fire, but it's also dangerous because you could get burned. You have to choose to feel better or not.

Then we have Gerda, a strong woman who sees her certainties while they fade away. She has to fight too, as Einar, against that irreversible and indispensable changing. The perfect definition is "evolution of love".

She hopes that she is only living in a nightmare which will come to an end. But this is only an illusion, because it doesn't matter if his husband dresses like a man or not, he is Lili, not Einar. So she has to think of what she can do, helping him or leaving him.

It would be easier to forget everything and go away, but she loves him, she is connected with his soul. This is a higher level, a spiritual bond which overcomes the difficulties and the definition of "gender": she cares about Einar and she never leaves him alone.

Love is when you want happiness for your beloved and this is what Gerda understands. She wants the best for him and he is grateful too, because he knows she supports him.

Is Einar selfish because he doesn't think about his wife's needs? I think it's not a matter of selfishness, but a matter of identity: how can you love someone if you don't love yourself? How can you share happiness if you don't know what happiness is?

This film makes me think a lot about these important themes and I'm glad I watched it.

<<I love you, because you are the only person who made sense of me. And made me, possible>>

(Lili to Gerda)

Bye for now


Yours, Silvia